How genuine are you? Here is a list of character traits that Travis Bradberry (author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and principle at www.TalentSmart.com) has compiled that will provide you with a measuring stick of your moral fiber as it pertains to genuineness.
Consider the hallmarks of genuine people.
- Genuine people don’t try to make people like them. They are who they are. They know that some people will like them, and some won’t. And they’re OK with that. It’s not that they don’t care whether or not other people will like them but simply that they’re not going to let that get in the way of doing the right thing. They’re willing to make unpopular decisions and to take unpopular positions if that’s what needs to be done.
- They don’t pass judgment. Genuine people are open-minded, which makes them approachable and interesting to others.
- They forge their own paths. Genuine people don’t derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from the opinions of others. Their direction comes from within, from their own principles and values. They do what they believe to be the right thing, and they’re not swayed by the fact that somebody might not like it.
- They are generous. Genuine people are unfailingly generous with whom they know, what they know, and the resources they have access to. They want you to do well more than anything else because they’re team players and they’re confident enough to never worry that your success might make them look bad.
- They treat everyone with respect. Genuine people are unfailingly polite and respectful. They believe they’re no better than anyone else.
- They aren’t motivated by material things. Genuine people don’t need shiny, fancy stuff in order to feel good. Their happiness comes from within, as well as from the simpler pleasures—such as friends, family, and a sense of purpose—that make life rich.
- They are trustworthy. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. Genuine people mean what they say, and if they make a commitment, they keep it.
- They are thick-skinned. Genuine people have a strong enough sense of self that they don’t go around seeing offense that isn’t there. They’re able to objectively evaluate negative and constructive feedback, accept what works, put it into practice, and leave the rest of it behind without developing hard feelings.
- They put away their phones. When genuine people commit to a conversation, they focus all of their energy on the conversation. Genuine people create connection and find depth even in short, everyday conversations.
- They aren’t driven by ego. Genuine people don’t make decisions based on their egos because they don’t need the admiration of others in order to feel good about themselves. Likewise, they don’t seek the limelight or try to take credit for other people’s accomplishments.
- They aren’t hypocrites. Genuine people practice what they preach. And genuine people fix their own problems first.
- They don’t brag. Genuine people don’t need to brag. They’re confident in their accomplishments, but they also realize that when you truly do something that matters, it stands on its own merits, regardless of how many people notice or appreciate it.
In summary, genuine people know who they are. They are confident enough to be comfortable in their own skin. They are firmly grounded in reality, and they’re truly present in each moment because they’re not trying to figure out someone else’s agenda or worrying about their own.
(SOURCE – Read the full article in Forbes Magazine: 12 Habits of Genuine People)
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